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My name is Abigail and this is my blog/study site of "selfluvology." You may be asking yourself what exactly selfluvology is and how it could benefit you to stick around.
If you could not already tell, this blog is all about self-love and how to become capable of not just accepting but cherishing what you body does for you each and every day. But here is the thing... that is really hard.
How can something we inherently possess be so hard to use as a daily practice?
How often do you criticize yourself?
Daily basis
Only when I look in the mirror
Once and a while, but not everyday
Never
Self-love wasn't always hard.
Story Time:
My childhood was happy, fun, and adventurous. I never even thought about my worth, feelings, or self-acceptance (except maybe when my brother stole my chocolate on halloween, hehe.) When I look back at those days I almost yearn to live the way I did when there was no thoug
ht or doubt in mind before doing, just as most kids do.
However, that all changed when I started fifth grade. All of a sudden there were certain standards as to what was "cool" and what was "weird." If you didn't have on skinny jeans, the newest silly bands, and an Aeropostale shirt on you were a loser, a weird no one wanted to be friends with.
"Where did that leave me?"
The kid who wore basically the same outfit to school everyday (flared jeans, dads old T-shirts, and torn up vans) now had to fit an uncomfortable, expensive standard that would fade each year and renew itself with an even better and more expensive trend.
For all of middle school and high school I would go through anything to be like the "popular" kids. Ugh, it makes me sick to think about all of the things I had done to try and fit in and just for the record I HATE SKINNY JEANS.
They are so uncomfortable.
Long story short, I love myself now because I have come to the realization that it is only me that can always be there for... me. No one will ever love me the way I need to love myself, and same goes for you. It is only you that can make yourself happy and feel good in your own skin, inside and out. Self-love is not just about appearance and skinny jeans, it's about love yourself for your unique you with no changes needed. There will always be people who will put you down based off standards they may have (and you are one of them, sadly.)
Selfluvology is about your "-ology" (your particular sience) for you to embrace and learn that it is okay not to like who you are everyday. Although, it is not okay to put yourself through the stress and torture of hating who you are.
Please know that you are worth everything and anything and I will do my best to be there for you on your journey to finding ways to better love yourself inside and out :)
- Abigail
I encountered the same trendy things going into middle school but my family wasn't able to buy the nice clothes and accessories. It was embarrassing at first but I got into the mindset that I didn't really want to be like everyone else. It's a mindset that has become ingrained in my day to day life and possibly doesn't garner me much popularity. Somewhat of a humbling experience for me. However, I observe those around me and notice even those who may appear to be doing well in most aspects of their lives, really are not at all. At the end of the day though, its important to be as content as possible with my life and to make adjustments…